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PostSubject: Dealing with friends who are not religiously commited   Tue Dec 25, 2007 1:05 pm

In the name of Allah,
Most Gracious, Most Merciful

B i s m i l l a a h i r R a h m a a n i r R a h e e m

As Salaam o Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barkatuh

How should she deal with friends who are not religiously committed?


I have friends who I am very close to, but they do not wear hijaab. Ispend a lot of time with them and I am influenced by their foolish and aimless talk. They waste their time going out to the club and to the
beach, and they spare little thought for Allaah and His Messenger, except for a few occasions that are hardly worth mentioning. When I speak about Allaah and what His Messenger said, they start to call me “Our shaykhah”. That discourages me from speaking (about these things).
Is what I am doing sinful? How can I help them to find the right path? Please note that I cannot give them up.


Praise be to Allaah.

If the relationship between you and them is as you describe, then adhere to the Book of Allaah and the guidance of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

Try to advise them, enjoin upon them that which is right and good, and forbid them to do that which is evil.

Be patient in bearing their insults and harm, and do not let their insults deter you from carrying out your duty towards them, which is to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil.

This is the way of Allaah concerning the callers and those who are called.
Allaah has explained that in the aayah where He tells us that Luqmaan said to his son (interpretation of the meaning):

O my son! Aqim-is-Salaat (perform As-Salaah), enjoin (on people) Al-Ma‘roof (Islamic Monotheism and all that is good), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. disbelief in the Oneness of Allaah, polytheism of all kinds and all that is evil and bad), and bear with patience whatever befalls you.
Verily, these are some of the important commandments (ordered by Allaah with no exemption)”

[Luqmaan 31:17]
If you fulfill your obligation of advising them, and you do this repeatedly but do not find any way to reach their hearts, or they cling more stubbornly to their falsehood, then withdraw from them lest you become weak in your religious commitment and moral standards, or their influence over you leads to bad consequences.

Be sincere towards Allaah and Allaah will help you. Do not worry about feeling lonely if you leave them, for loneliness is better than bad companions.

“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things”[al-Talaaq 65:2-3 – interpretation of the meaning]

From: Fataawaa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 12/365-366


Alahumma infa`ni bima `allamtani wa `allamni ma yanfa`uni!

OH ALLAH! Make useful for me what You taught me and teach me knowledge that will be useful to me!

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Guiding one soul to knowledge and faith is a momentous achievement.
It is what will earn us great blessings (Insha Allah).

With kind and humble regards,
Umme Safoora

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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with friends who are not religiously commited   Thu Jan 03, 2008 12:44 pm

wheen zakat became Farze for muslin in which year of the Hijra?
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